Hey guys today’s Youtube video & post is a very personal one and is very close to my heart. If you have watched my video then carry on reading if you haven’t then go and watch the video first then read this blog post!! If you liked this video please give it a THUMBS UP and make sure to SUBSCRIBE.
So first of all some of you may know and some of you might not but here’s a quick overview anyways. I was adopted when I was 10 months old from China. I’m not quite sure how to spell the place where I was adopted from but I know that it was a very poor area. I was adopted from an orphanage. As explained in my video as a baby I didn’t receive the right amount of nutrition which lead to me having dental problems and health problems.
I don’t mean that I was abused or treated badly as a baby (well not to my knowledge). I just believe that because there were so many babies and not enough money the orphanage had to figure out a cheap way to feed us all hence the use of sugary milk. All of these issues were resolved once I was adopted my family made sure that I had professional help from doctors and dentists.
I have no contact nor do I know my blood parents or family which does upset me sometimes. This is because I see the bond that people have with their mum or dad and it just makes me wonder would I be that close with my real mum or dad?
However I’m grateful to have a loving adoptive mum & dad and a huge intermediate and extended family who love me just as any other family would. I sometimes get upset when people talk about what features they have like I have my mums eyes etc…For me I can’t even look at a picture to see what features I have the same as my mum or dad.
I have no hatred towards my blood family as I have no idea why I was given up it could be because of a tragedy or because they simply couldn’t care for me. I have always wondered why and if they would like to meet me but that I’ll probably never know. I’m a huge believer in fate and I believe my adoptive parents were given me out of all the babies at the orphanage for a reason. I’ve had such a better upbringing here in the UK than I probably would have if I had stayed in China.
Although I was adopted I had a normal childhood and got to do all of the normal things children do such as going to the zoo or beach. I’ve also travelled to many amazing places such as Morocco, Egypt, Italy, America and Turkey. I had no psychological problems and found it easy to socialise with children of my age. I loved to play sports and play in the garden with my two cousins whom I’m really close to.
Being adopted has posed no problems for me so far even in school I wasn’t bullied or picked on for not having an Asian mum or dad. I’m really relieved that I wasn’t targeted for this reason as I know I would have found it very hard.Everyone that I have met in my life so far whether they’re young or old always enjoy hearing my story and ask many questions.
This can sometimes be awkward for them but not for me as I go through this all the time. I honestly don’t mind when people ask me questions as they have a right and are generally just curious. I have never been offended by the questions that I have been asked as they usually vary in complexity and curiosity.
As also mentioned in my video if any of you guys are adopted too I’d love to hear your stories and chat to you as non of my friends have been adopted. I think that because I’m adopted I am a much more down to earth person because I’ve been brought up in a specific way. The main point is that I think I accept things easier such as family diversity because of my story and this has helped me to become the person I am today.
If you would like me to do another post explaining whether I want to find my parents, how I feel about certain things and a few theories that I have. Please let me know as I’ve really enjoyed writing this post even though it’s a very personal one. Also if you guys have any questions then feel free to ask them as I said before I enjoy answering them.