I thought that I would do another dating blog post as my previous one “My Experience: Why Tinder Shouldn’t Be A Taboo Subject” turned out to be rather popular among my readers. I haven’t really spoken much about my dating life here on my blog but I have vowed to do it more this year.
I have used dating apps for quite a while now. I started using them when I was 19 which I thought was an acceptable age to start using them. My main reason for using them is that I’m not really a club, pub or bar kind of person. Don’t get me wrong I’d go to bar or pub but to eat or catch up with friends.
I find that dating apps for me are the best way to find possible guys to date. I can choose who I want to talk to and things like how far away they live. What I like most is that if you don’t connect you can simply unmatch without all of that awkwardness you get if you were to decline someone in person.
I thought that I would put together a few tips for using online dating apps in case you have never used them before. Think of it as a guide of how to use dating apps as such but not from an expert more like a friend.
1. Be Safe
Now this one is pretty self-explanatory but sometimes we forget that even though online dating is a modern thing it can still be dangerous. I always begin by telling at least one friend that I’m going on a date and where it will be taking place just in case something were to happen.
If you are open with your parents then there’s no problem in telling them as well. I tell my mum when I have a date, who it’s with and what time she should expect me home. Obviously, sometimes I don’t come home when I said I would but I always text her to tell her I’ll be home later. It may sound a little OTT but if anything were to happen at least someone would know I was missing.
2. Have Fun
3. Stalk, Stalk, Stalk!
This is pretty obvious because nowadays it’s so easy to find out a lot about a person before you meet them in real life. I always start with using their name and where they work because it’s easy to find someone that way. If I can’t find them on Facebook then I will use Linkedin (sort of like FB but for business).
99.9% of the time I will find them and I can immediately tell if they are who they say they are. I’ll then dig a little deeper and check out their Instagram if I can find one from their online dating app profile or their Facebook. This is just so that I know I’m going on a date with the person who is in the photos.
I can safely say that by following these tips I have never been catfished yet….I also find that I feel a little less nervous meeting the person because I feel like I know them a bit already. You can find out a lot about someone from their social media accounts such as what they like and dislike, how they dress and what they like to do on the weekends.
The way I find this socially acceptable is that any person can look me up on Google and find my blog, YouTube channel, Instagram and so on so a little stalking on my behalf wouldn’t hurt anyone now would it.
4. Don’t Be A Catfish
What is the point? Because you will get caught out eventually. Just be who you are and if they don’t like it then it’s their loss.
5. Stay Close To Home
If it’s your first time online dating then I would recommend choosing somewhere to meet up on your way home. That way if things go south you haven’t got far to go home and you know the area that you are in. I usually pick somewhere central like Leciester Square which is on the same tube line as where I live.
6. Do Different Dates
7. Date A Lot Of People
Within reason…what I’m trying to say is go on a few dates before you make any decisions. Don’t keep all your eggs in one basket. The first person you date may seem amazing but turn out not to be whereas the second person you may get on better with. Testing the water with dating is important before you fully comitt with someone I find.
So those are most of my dating tips I have a few more up my sleeve so I may keep them for another blog post if this one is successful. I hope you guys like it as you seemed to really like the other one. I think that dating is a lot of fun and can be such a learning curve for yourself good or bad.